when friendships lose meaning | Caitlin Shields

Dear “Hey how are you I miss you”

Here’s the thing.  College is this paradox of time where we have so much of it, while also being insanely busy.  I know you have the ability to fit me into your schedule because I see you spend time with others.  But you don’t spend time with me.  So when you ask me how I am and tell me that you miss me, but never text me or ask me to hang out, your words lose meaning.  I think you are a genuinely sincere person, but sometimes, actions speak louder than words.  Even though my love language is words of affirmation, quality time is a very close second.

I can think of the specific moment when our friendship started to become surface level, and it saddens me to realize that it may not recover.  This hurts to say, but maybe this was already planned for us.  Maybe our friendship was only meant to be a college friendship.

Also, there is no bitterness on my end.  I know you will do great things after college and in life.  You are such a beautiful soul and a real joy to be around.  I hope other friendships you have made carry over into the “real adult world” and flourish for years to come.  And because I care so much for you, I want you to know that I will always be here.  I have this thing where I am there for everyone, even if they aren’t there for me.  I don’t know why I am this way, but just because you were not present for me, does not mean I will leave you out in the cold when you need someone.

Take care,


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